American writer, his wife Elizabeth and Dan
decision experiment, loyalty in doubt, fear will crazy
email each couple, on the other side of the body requesting
, married 9 years, stable, mortgage is paid off, her daughter grew, the marriage has lost the passion, the two sides of the defect seems to be increasingly difficult to tolerate. Able to make this marriage to regain passion? Following a period of experiment,
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accept the Weir straight to the point: Frozen pig cut into small pieces in order to store into a small jar. Of course, I also have many places to let him crazy. For example, I hate French kissing; often without thinking to reject the proposal of Dan; when Dan middle of the night vomiting, I would pretend to sleep. But I think too much Dan more than I do. I remember when we held in country house in Maine, family gatherings, he had threatened to severely beat my brother meal. However, our marriage is still the overall good.
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one night, Elizabeth, lying in bed, suddenly had an idea: to improve her and Dan's marriage.
Elizabeth told the The same is true husband, Dan, and actively learn new skills, I do not know too tired, In the 9 years of marriage, Dan put himself into a skilled carpenter, good cook, tireless player. Now he is reading the load of the former Soviet Union during the training manual, in the hope of physical exercise, 41 teenagers into a sturdy physique.
Sadly, Dan thought he had all the initiatives is to improve the marriage of medicine, who knows Elizabeth is on Despite these efforts, the couple's intimate relationship disappeared.
Elizabeth said: My opening statement is this: Our marriage is like the waves, the undercurrent of the decision under the sea the shape and direction. moved to San Francisco the third day to meet you. Do you remember when you look like? then you are a surfer and writer, handsome extraordinary, full of charm. 11 years later, we have two children, two jobs, a house. Is life really from the future, we become a backwater of you? it. They also agreed that now is the time, or after this village, no this shop. Their two daughters, a 4-year-old, a 7-year-old, have no day care; the work of the couple are back on track, broadly stable; house also pay off the loan.
Elizabeth started reading a lot of psychology books and found that her thoughts are common.
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Dan proposed to his wife's expressed concerns. He cited a California saying: If the thought of having ###### bush, it is best mentally prepared, because it will scare a snake hidden.
2000 年 7 1 May, Elizabeth and Dan were married in California. That year Dan, aged 32, Elizabeth 30. Marriage both parents have lasted 40 years. Dan grew up in Berkeley, California, his parents indulge in romance between husband and wife, leading Dan felt ignored. Dan in high school, girls do not want to talk to him, Dan ask for advice to the mother, her mother said, Dan is so handsome that the girls are shy Debu would dare speak to him. And Elizabeth's parents raising three children in Massachusetts, because the busy working they do not have the opportunity to express private feelings between husband and wife.
After the wedding, the couple had considered the problems that may arise between them should be the money and the religious sub (Elizabeth was a Jew, Dan was a Christian.) Later in life shows that both do not pose a problem. They established the 21st century type of marriage partner: Dan and Elizabeth, in addition to an economic partner, lover, co-parents and best friends, or each other's work assistant, editor and first reader.
difficult start
good marriage should be like? More interesting conversation? More intense ######?
University of Rochester psychology professor Harry. Reese to the present interpretation of the various marriage analogy in the Dan and Elizabeth finally reached agreement on: Try and believe in exploration, a better measure of the marriage and will appear. They began to cf Javier. The authority of Dr. Hendricks as
Elizabeth and Dan started the first project: the inclusion of a list that contains its own characteristics, these features are Elizabeth told the
first step, please use the way as much as possible to complete the following sentence: Vincent. Miller in the He believes that marriage is but in the end only one person can be met. Elizabeth and Dan found they did to each other as competitors. This mode of thinking back to the competition between us.
second step, the memories of a romantic time during intercourse. Complete the following sentence: I look. In addition to children, you are ignoring all other things ah. transfer of love from her husband and mother, obviously I failed. But Dan did not her husband and father to find a balance between the two roles, but his problem is just the opposite with me. He often ignored the child. p> Elizabeth suddenly realized one fact: her favorite books such as those on marriage Calvin. Terui Lin's Didi Ang's
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there is a perception that the U.S. academic community: the couple must learn better through marriage. Marriage education movement of small promoters Bernard. Gurney priest in the Teaching students how to From the training content, the starting first by a person described his or her feelings, these feelings were confirmed by another, and then repeated word for word.
accompanied by soft background music, Elizabeth and Dan sat on the sofa started their Elizabeth Dan mimic the tone: appreciate the lifestyle you want to pursue. After the birth of their first child Hannah,
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Dan and his style of cooking that made noise, Elizabeth crazy, she has been hoping to have an appeal all the noise from the site. Dan is also dissatisfied with his wife to fight back: secretly into the salad, fried pig ears, made of strange for her to eat breakfast; children knocked over the flour jar, his indifference, the time 6:45 in the morning muffins made with grapes and champagne.
Elizabeth know, Dan's love of cooking and obsessive-compulsive disorder only to resolve his anxiety,
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that afternoon, the couple communicate in such a blunt way, this exercise seems to open a Pandora's box, the situation became very But whatever the outcome, they are aware of the war of words will only add to the pain. Home that night, they had the first Previous
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