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punish the baby ten scientific method
punish the baby, is every parents raise children, one of the ways to correct the wrong child. As the saying goes, no rules no standards, the children make mistakes, of course need parental education and punishment. But the punishment should be scientific way baby, once punished properly, not only would not achieve normative role of the baby's behavior, the behavior is more likely to reverse the development of the baby. Family education in how to effectively punish the baby, here are ten ways to science and wisdom.
1, advice
Case: quarrel with their peers, snatch toys ... ...
ways: first, putting aside your work, and walked beside the child, let the children know that you are attention and concern; and then asked the child a dispute, the arguments of reason and patience, the idea of listening to children; to encourage children to beat, robbed is not correct behavior and ideas, and require children to learn to say
Recommendation: Do not to suppress or threat of great sound to a child; not opened directly to the child, and then yelled at the child is not; words between the child's self-esteem to avoid injury.
2, smacked
Case: fighting litter ... ...
by: stick a piece of paper with newspaper production, appearance can be wrapped in a layer of paper loading; give it a name, such as guard bars, rods Chen ... ...; placed in a fixed place as a guard.
advice: when in a good mood, making, can be discussed with the children the reasons for making guard bar; punish a child, let him say he was wrong in any place; remind punishment causes; attention to security issues, playing the part of the palms, buttocks based, other parts should be avoided.
3, fine ride
Case: noisy endlessly, fight ... ...
way: put in the penalty area on a cushion or a chair can be a name; for an alarm clock or clock, the time penalty time.
suggestions: Punishment is not correct place on the door, not so obvious places; limited punishment time, or let the children talk about how much time penalty; punishment finished, let the children say the reasons for this are punished.
4, doing chores
Case: graffiti, litter, toys, ... ...
way: prepare a cloth, brooms, pots and other cleaning tools, let the children clean up and develop clean habits.
Recommendation: Parents should always pay attention to children's safety; small children with their parents to lead by doing housework; train the child to develop the habit of objects owned by the original place; children to help out when asked to learn anything.
5, drawing
Case: like the curse, scratching, kicking, biting and other little tricks.
way: according to family situation, in a fixed place at a small table (the punishment is usually best not to use the table to the desk, table, guest tables, etc., so that the children in the future to use these tables, it will produce fear, fear); for a book and a different color pen, let the children draw and write the idea in mind.
Recommendation: When children are injured, the first dealing with the injured area and then punished; the time the child will occur and draw down the wrong thing; adults asked to control their emotions, can be learned from the child's painting, the children made Mental wrong idea; This is the art of therapy, more will not hurt the children self-esteem.
6, left standing
Case: deliberately jump from a height, run and jump on board.
way: at home, planning for a penalty area, may be a name, location in order to rely on the wall, not right on the main door; the floor covered with cushions; prepare a clock or alarm clock, timing the time the child punishment.
suggestions: Punishment should not be too obvious or location is on the door, to avoid harming the children self-esteem; time should not be punished with the child to speak too long, otherwise it will create more naughty child counter; depending on the child's height to determine the pad height; Punishment After asking the reasons for the child to be punished, let the children know the wrong reasons.
7, read, write
cases: violent, lying, pilfering ... ...
way: choose a fixed penalty area or place a small table covered with cushion; in the penalty area inside for pencils, drawing paper, colored pens, story books, colored paper ... ...; let the children be asked to write or read, resolving child anger.
suggestion: When the work is not immediately put down, it can be called the children to the penalty area to reflect on; Do not rage against the dying child, and children first isolation, to ease each other's emotions; and other emotions to calm down after the child is asked wrong motives .
8, confiscation of favorite things
case: endless noise, litter, do not accept toys ... ...
way: the child throw the items will be confiscated as punishment.
recommendations: first, putting aside your work, and walked beside the child, let the children know that mom is attention and concern; tell them to throw the items away, well stop the noise, or they will be punished; let the children say Why make mistakes, and the reasons for her mother angry.
9, row of beans
case: for lack of patience, litter and so on.
method: Prepare a box, tray, which has red, green and other colored beads, a few plastic pots; let the children in the punishment table, the various colors of beads, placed in the correct position.
Recommendation: If the child itself is very rebellious, as the case for change to deal with children can be left standing, sitting do fine penalty; the purpose of training them to develop the habit of objects owned by the original place; hand-eye coordination can be trained to distinguish capacity; completed, let the children know the reason to be punished.
10, prohibition of certain rights, claims
case: do not like brushing teeth, picky eaters, litter ... ...
way: The kids love to eat, something temporary ban on playing touch, as a punishment.
advice: not to threaten, anger, said the attitude of the children cried; let the children know the reasons for prohibiting these rights, when the children good future performance, the recovery of their rights.
punishment Caution:
key: grasp the principles of control of emotions
In addition, the experts also said the children were growing up, inevitably make mistakes, whether intentional or unintentional, when parents punish children, need to pay attention to some things, so as to avoid adverse side effects.
1, security, material goods to avoid the punishment was too hard;
2, to control their emotional response;
3, the location should be chosen penalty was not obvious, is not correct place on the door, so as to avoid injury to the child self-esteem;
4, pay attention to wording, tone, not by threats, intimidation, said words to the children;
5, contents of the penalty to be fully implemented, not tolerance, compromise;
6, penalty, to appease the child, let him know that his parents care and love.
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